"I Don’t Want to Be Too Much": How RTT Helps You Feel Safe Taking Up Space
Have you ever second-guessed a message before sending it?
Held back an opinion in case it made someone uncomfortable?
Dimmed your excitement, your sadness, or your truth just to avoid being “too much”?
If so, you’re not alone.
This pattern is everywhere.
And it often starts in childhood, long before we realize we’ve been shrinking ourselves to fit.
In Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), this is one of the most common subconscious rules I see:
“Tone it down. Don’t overwhelm. Don’t upset anyone. Don’t take up too much space.”
But the truth is:
You are not too much.
You’ve just been taught that being fully you might cost you connection, safety, or belonging.
Where This Fear Comes From
The subconscious fear of being "too much" often starts in early environments where:
Your emotions were called dramatic
You were told to calm down, be quiet, or not make a scene
Your needs were inconvenient
You were praised more for your compliance than your voice
You were punished (actively or passively) for expressing too much truth, energy, or emotion
And so your mind learned:
“Be small. Be easy. Don’t cause discomfort.”
“If I’m too big, too loud, too sensitive, I’ll be rejected.”
“If I need too much, I won’t be loved.”
These beliefs don’t just fade with time.
They become part of your internal guidance system.
And they shape how you show up in work, love, and leadership—until they’re replaced.
What “Too Much” Looks Like in Adults
Downplaying your feelings or achievements
Constantly editing your voice, tone, or energy
Apologising for taking up time or space
Feeling guilty when you speak up, ask for more, or draw boundaries
Attracting relationships or environments where you feel tolerated—but not celebrated
This isn’t your truth. It’s conditioning.
How RTT Helps You Reclaim Your Full Self
RTT helps you go beneath the surface and access the subconscious moment where your mind decided:
“It’s not safe to be all of me.”
In a session, we revisit the scenes that shaped this belief not to relive them, but to reframe them.
Once we understand the origin, we can:
Challenge the belief from an adult perspective
Rewire the subconscious using repetition, suggestion, and visualisation
Install a new emotional truth: that your presence, needs, and voice are not only allowed, but valuable
Because the truth is, you were never “too much.”
You were just too much for someone who didn’t know how to hold all of you.
And that was never about you.
A New Inner Script to Practice
“It is safe to take up space.
I am allowed to be seen, heard, felt, and received in full.
My needs, voice, and presence are valid and valuable.”
Final Thoughts
Shrinking yourself to feel safe is something your mind learned to do.
But it’s not something you have to keep doing.
You’re not too intense.
You’re not too emotional.
You’re not too loud, needy, expressive, or passionate.
You’re just right for the right people, the right purpose, and the right path.
RTT helps you stop managing yourself and start reclaiming yourself.
If you're ready to release the fear of being "too much" and learn to feel safe in your full presence, you can book a free discovery call now!
