Gen X men: stuck, searching, still hopeful

Not for nothing is Gen X referred to as the ‘forgotten’ generation – lost in the noise between boomers and millennials, Gen Xers are known to be self-reliant, self-sufficient and sceptical; attributes considered by many to be admirable when ‘curse’ might be closer to the truth.

Research suggests that Gen X men feel stuck, unfulfilled, and lacking time, with a sense that life is passing them by. Despite years of effort, self-sufficiency and self-reliance, they feel there is little to show for it—and that’s because no man is an island.

The result is that far too many men feel overwhelmed, caught in comparison with others, and unsure of their worth or direction. The result is a damaging belief that is neither accurate or helpful, and that is ‘its’ too late to change’.

Recent findings from ASX-listed SEEK support this trend. A survey of 3,033 working-age Australians revealed widespread career regret, particularly among Generation X. Financial pressures were identified as the most common source of dissatisfaction. According to the data, 57 per cent of Generation X workers reported career regret, more than any other group.

But it is not too late; far from it – we are working and living longer than ever. You have the time to reclaim your life using tiny, consistent changes in habit to restore a sense of control and direction. Three key strategies can support this shift:

1. Create daily momentum

Initiating daily routines such as identifying a small win, expressing gratitude, and setting an intention for the following day can have a powerful cumulative effect. The goal is not instant transformation but steady progress—an approach that builds confidence and clarity over time.

2. Challenge internal narratives

Many feelings of inadequacy stem from unconscious beliefs formed in early childhood. Messages about success, identity, and worth are often absorbed long before awareness. Recognising these patterns and consciously challenging them—especially harsh inner dialogue—can reduce anxiety and increase emotional resilience. Simple questions such as "Is this true?" or "Would I say this to a friend?" can initiate this process.

3. Unpack financial conditioning

Midlife financial stress is often more about inherited beliefs than actual income. Early family attitudes towards money—such as seeing it as scarce or morally suspect—can shape a restrictive mindset. Identifying and replacing these beliefs with more empowering ones supports healthier financial behaviour and greater confidence.

Having worked with many men navigating these challenges, it is clear that meaningful change is possible at any stage of life. Age is not a barrier to personal growth. What matters is alignment—living in a way that reflects one's values, priorities, and a more profound sense of purpose.

The message is clear for those in Generation X who feel time is running out: it is not too late.